details.

i have been hit with another realization which isn't quite mind blowing. people know about this but i have understood this on a much deeper level(i think so). also this might be the most candid blog post ever so bare with the potential cringe/cheese/stupidity that you might notice. Merci.

it's the little things all the damn time. i really don't want to go on a fancy night out at a stupid diner. we could just sit in the car and talk about anything. what really matters is the people, the vibes and the energy. sure, one might enjoy the luxurious things. and i do too. i have been brought up this way. what i mean to say is that if i enjoy going to a fancy hotel to eat, that doesn't mean i won't eat at a roadside vada pav place in the rain. it's hard to find meaning in superficial things. i want the small things all the time. it doesn't matter if you got me a whole big bouquet of roses, what really matters is that you pluck a wilted sunflower from a garden and got it for me because you know that's my favorite flower. it doesn't matter you wrote me a letter, what matters is how you chose to write it in my favorite colour. details. small little details. it's not that hard to listen to someone closely, to pay attention to detail. it always matters when you pay close attention. every girl likes perfumes. but do you know her favorite fragrance? in my defense, i always pay attention to detail and in conversation. i tend to remember the most random things about people. i can't prove it here. but i do, i really do remember small details about people and this is not on purpose. it just automatically happens. i'll remember your favorite song you told me a year ago. i will remember the colour of your shirt you were wearing when we met for lunch. idk i just remember all this stuff. and honestly, it sure does get irritating because if i have such an awesome memory i should be using it in something productive (which i do actually) but the positive is that this has made a big difference in the way i see people now. not everyone can be defined by the way they look, or speak or think. sometimes the most fascinating things about someone is the little details. once you look closely, you'll realize how much of a complex life everyone has, you'll realize that life is not that deep but people are. you'll realize that other people too enjoy the small things. you'll realize small gestures mean so so so much.

i don't know one person who won't like it if i call them and talk about the time they told me about their fanboy/girl phase and just laugh about it. i don't know one person who won't smile if i text them "you're really awesome," sure as hell, some people will cringe, but they'll smile too. in fact, i did this once. i texted all my friends that i am grateful for them. randomly. without prior conversation. i just texted them saying that they are awesome and i love them. i posted pictures of my friends and i on my spam instagram account and just appreciated them in the caption, again, without any prior conversation. it was awesome. (hi, so if you're a great friend of mine reading this and the message didn't reach you. we must not be on the same talking terms as we are now. but i do truly appreciate you a lot)

appreciating details in people has other perks too. sometimes it gets difficult to accept that other people have an as complex life as you have, and that they are too dealing with stuff even if everything looks perfect on the surface. details, on the other hand, are always deeper in the core. you know people more, and the more you know, the more you understand them and their life. which is awesome!! it also helps you refrain from comparing lives of two people. you know, everyone has their own thing to do.

this is the end of this blog post article. thank u for reading. <3

also read: falling for the sky

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