so are humans perfect?

we as humans want to be accepted by everyone. and as we grow and evolve we learn the bitter truth  that everyone doesn't like us. there will always exist people who hate us. due to this harsh truth we usually look up to people for motivation and they are usually the kind of people we want to be, there can be three situations to this:

i) they are literally your idol

ii) you have idolized them to such an extreme level that, now you're jealous of them.

ii) you absolutely hate them

(in the last case, you don't really look up to them but just simply despise their perfections. also should this count as being jealous? you're not exactly jealous of them but you just want to be in their shoes but on the other hand you have accepted that, that is never going to happen since you're not as perfect as them. so i think it is being jealous and then coming to the fact being jealous will not help because you're not perfect as them. i think i just contradicted my own statement and wrote the same sentence over and over again.)

i sort of ended in the last case. but i got out of it pretty quickly. and i have a very interesting but obvious way to do this.

you start to notice their imperfections. only that.

but usually in the third case, doing this is hard but for some reason i am pretty good at it. if i know that someone is perfect i also am aware of the fact how much of a shitty person they are. (does that make me a positive person and a negative person at the same time?) in my case, the one flaw they had was how much of a bad texter they were and how ignorant. they hated me. i believe.

this technique is also useful in cases such as getting over a crush / person / boyfriend / girlfriend / ex / fictional character (i am still not over augustus waters). but then you're  romanticizing your crush so it can be difficult too. but again i think it is easy for me.also you can  literally fall in love with your "just a crush" person. in that case, from what i've heard. people usually are so in love that they don't notice their flaws OR they notice their flaws and accept. but i am not sure about things related to LOVE (because i haven't been in love)so i'd rather not say.

coming back to hating someone who is perfect. that thing is very stressful. imagine looking at someone perfect and hating them because they're perfect. this memory (me hating a specific person because they are perfect =memory)was triggered by a song "Heather" by Conan Gray. where the singer of the song is in the exact situation as me, the difference being that they were in fact also in love with the perfect person. and i am not. also Heather makes me cry. that's weird.(Conan Gray's voice>>)

also introspecting more, isn't perfection a relative concept? like if someone is perfect to me, the same person might be the shittest person you've ever met. maybe according to me they're perfect. maybe they are just perfect because they have a good face structure. also plot twist (!) they hate themselves but we like them because they seem to be perfect but superficially. also certain kinds of people, like Beyonce, I don't know one person who has a problem with Beyonce. like Barack Obama, no one hates Barack Obama. he is perfect. so maybe the person in my situation is also figuratively Barack Obama and therefore no one hates him. But I am sure Barack Obama also has a flaw, for which Michelle Obama might hate him (just a little bit, they look cute together.) 

Also I think the statement "Everyone has flaws because no one is perfect" is equivalent to saying that "Phenol is acidic because it is not basic" or saying that "He is a boy because he is not a girl". In both the cases the essence has some reason to it. So why do people have flaws? Why is no one perfect? If you google this question, you find that people are actually only stating "no one is perfect" blindly without challenging it. So is the statement "no one is perfect" actually true? what if perfection is an actual core concept? and if that is true, are we striving to be perfect without knowing what is perfectionism? also are we actually trying to perfect? what if you are actually, literally and figuratively the definition of PERFECT but then you're trying to be someone else? if yes then does your action of being someone else also count in the concept of perfectionism? if no, then are you trying to be imperfect? what the hell. i just blew my own mind. i'd love to talk about this with someone who's imperfect ( or maybe not?)

maybe one day i'll start a podcast only to speak about perfectionism? we'll never know.

comment if i should start a podcast or no ? below if your read this!

by me (Saniya Sethi)

also i have a yt channel (i am embarrassed of it i think, it's not perfect)

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