insecurities.

it's so sad to see how we're wired to believe that if we are not "physically attractive" enough, or don't fit the societal beauty standards, it's hard for someone to like us or be attracted towards us. it's sad to witness how so many people refuse to accept that someone can like them just because they are not attractive. Is it that the most beautiful people on this planet have loads of flings and guys around them waiting to date them? is this how the world works? and if it works this way, I think that shit sucks. and if it's true then it would be hard for anyone to ever realize how beautiful they are.

literally everyone is born with a flaw. whether in their personality or morphology. this flaw can either be accepted by the acquired or be complained about. they call it insecurities. why do insecurities exist? why do I have insecurities about things on my body that I simply can't change or manipulate? why do you have insecurities that you feed into and never overlook them to see how amazing of a person you are? how does a simple realization of accepting your own body become a complicated long and exhaustive task?

before you think about the concept of loving your body. let me add a point and say that loving yourself and accepting yourself are two different feelings. it's okay to not love yourself. but I think it's important to accept them. the flaws. to come at peace with them. and if a 2nd person likes you, they should not be one of your limiting beliefs. "Why do they like me?" This question is a question from an insecure mind's insecure body. and don't get me wrong, I too think why do they like me? i really don't think I am that pretty. but don't all of us? the answer to this question might validate us in ways nothing else can. and so it might seem as a dopamine releasing system, but temporary.

flaws, in my opinion, are subjective. you might be so concerned about the way your hairline looks but I might have never noticed it or I might have never thought of it as a flaw in you. same thing with me, I might be so concerned about the way my teeth look and you might not even care. really, some flaws are just seeds of the expectations of the world that we grow in ourselves. it's heartbreaking to see people hide their emotions, be uncertain and don't communicate just because they think they are not pretty enough to be liked.

two insecure people could do two things. never communicate and feed into each other's insecurities or accept themselves and each other via communication. communication is actually a very simple blessing we have been given by evolution. it amazes me to see how we are the only the species on this planet to clearly communicate, draw, listen, tell and read, and still we are the ones who refuse to.

I am infuriated. I think it's sad. It's because there are so many people on this planet who do not know people admire them and they themselves can't admire their ownselves because of the flaws they have.
you really don't have as many flaws as you think you do. and let me add the most cringiest but true statement here, beauty is subjective.

we are very well taught that beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. this sentence tells us how beauty is subjective, and if someone finds us beautiful, it's them. it's their mind that finds us beautiful. but we are never taught to love or perhaps accept our flaws. or the flaws we think we have. yes beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder, but does that beauty also lie in our own eyes for ourselves. beauty might be a word with intensity so I'll use the word acceptance. does acceptance lie in our own eyes for ourselves?

if one can accept someone else despite their flaws, why is that accepting yourself becomes a trouble?

think. reflect. act

//accepting yourself is a slow process.

this makes me think. source:pinterest 


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