Making conversation as a late teen and other chatty stuff
in the midst of me trying to make conversation , he said that;
"I am running out of the capability of making conversation, I can't do it anymore",
and that hit hard. It blew my mind.
Well, it didn't exactly blew my mind. But it hit hard. I didn't see that coming. And the "he" I mentioned is this guy whom I was trying my best to make conversation,(i request you to not make any further assumptions, because I was just out of mind that day). Okay let's just stick to this.
That moment I realized that whatever I say is utter bullshit (sorry to the parents who thought this content was "made for kids"), it's because making conversation, isn't necessary, okay. I don't know if this makes sense but you can imagine living a life with the least amount of verbal communication possible. And as some great man has said, if you can dream it, you can do it.
The thing is we as teenagers always like to express ourselves, and in my case, expressing means writing or speaking. Speaking utter shit. At the same time, I say that making conversation isn't necessary. If you think of what you say in the 24 hours you have, it's no surprise that almost 80% is not necessary. And as I mentioned, I am a talkative maniac, if I ever try to only speak the 20% of my speech in a day, people just ask me if I am okay. They think I am sick/mad/sad.Well, I don't wanna explain them that I am only attempting to say a fraction of my normal speech.
Speaking less, has a lot of perks, your mind thinks better, there's less expenditure of energy, there's less stress, you feel more relaxed, and concentration increases etc. And I say all this because I've tried
Let's see about making conversation. I suck at making conversation. Even though I suck, I try my best to just make conversation. What I believe is that the main idea of making conversation is to have a handful of topics to talk about, like the knowing somebody, politics, weather, existential crisis, how cool black holes are, whether they like pizza or tacos, how did their weekend go, you know the basic. But by having a topic to talk about doesn't solve the problem, one should know how to speak, what to speak. Now that is what becomes tough, because the fact that the person in front of you has all the capabilities to judge you and not care about your opinion gives me a rush of social anxiety and the fear of expressing myself,in general. And that is why my friends, now even I am running out of the capabilities to make conversation. But obviously I cannot claim just one factor to effect the making conversation thingy but there are so many more.
Alright, y'all I'll close now.
"I am running out of the capability of making conversation, I can't do it anymore",
and that hit hard. It blew my mind.
Well, it didn't exactly blew my mind. But it hit hard. I didn't see that coming. And the "he" I mentioned is this guy whom I was trying my best to make conversation,(i request you to not make any further assumptions, because I was just out of mind that day). Okay let's just stick to this.
That moment I realized that whatever I say is utter bullshit (sorry to the parents who thought this content was "made for kids"), it's because making conversation, isn't necessary, okay. I don't know if this makes sense but you can imagine living a life with the least amount of verbal communication possible. And as some great man has said, if you can dream it, you can do it.
The thing is we as teenagers always like to express ourselves, and in my case, expressing means writing or speaking. Speaking utter shit. At the same time, I say that making conversation isn't necessary. If you think of what you say in the 24 hours you have, it's no surprise that almost 80% is not necessary. And as I mentioned, I am a talkative maniac, if I ever try to only speak the 20% of my speech in a day, people just ask me if I am okay. They think I am sick/mad/sad.Well, I don't wanna explain them that I am only attempting to say a fraction of my normal speech.
Speaking less, has a lot of perks, your mind thinks better, there's less expenditure of energy, there's less stress, you feel more relaxed, and concentration increases etc. And I say all this because I've tried
Let's see about making conversation. I suck at making conversation. Even though I suck, I try my best to just make conversation. What I believe is that the main idea of making conversation is to have a handful of topics to talk about, like the knowing somebody, politics, weather, existential crisis, how cool black holes are, whether they like pizza or tacos, how did their weekend go, you know the basic. But by having a topic to talk about doesn't solve the problem, one should know how to speak, what to speak. Now that is what becomes tough, because the fact that the person in front of you has all the capabilities to judge you and not care about your opinion gives me a rush of social anxiety and the fear of expressing myself,in general. And that is why my friends, now even I am running out of the capabilities to make conversation. But obviously I cannot claim just one factor to effect the making conversation thingy but there are so many more.
Alright, y'all I'll close now.
By Saniya Sethi
(not a speak-ologist, just saying!)
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